Dewey Decimal306.89
Table Of ContentContents Acknowledgments vii introduction: Putting Children First When a Marriage Comes Apart 1 chapter one: Divorcing Emotions: Riding Alone on the Emotional Roller Coaster of Grief 15 chapter two: Separate Spheres: How to Keep Your Emotions from Running Your Divorce 43 chapter three: Children’s Realities: The Truth About Kids and Divorce 60 chapter four: Seasons of Change: The Tasks of Divorce 84 chapter five: Talking to Children About Separation 97 chapter six: Keeping Emotions Out of Legal Negotiations 134 chapter seven: Parenting Plans 162 chapter eight: Coparenting for Resilience 198 chapter nine: Exploring New Relationships 239 chapter ten: Putting the Lessons into Practice 265 chapter eleven: Letting Go and Moving On 292 Notes 307 Index 315
SynopsisNationally recognized expert Robert Emery applies his twenty-five years of experience as a researcher, therapist, and mediator to offer parents a new roadmap to divorce—never before laid out for general readers. Dr. Emery shows how our powerful emotions, and the way we handle them, shape how we divorce—and whether our children suffer or thrive in the long run. His message is hopeful, yet realistic—divorce is invariably painful, but parents can help promote their children’s resiliency. With compassion and authority, Dr. Emery explains: • Why it is so hard to really make divorce work • How anger and fighting can keep people from really separating • Why legal matters should be one of the last tasks • Why parental love and authority can be the best therapy” for kids One million children are affected by divorce each year. This unique book combines the compelling guidance of a renowned researcher and the sensitivity of a practicing therapist and divorced father to help parents and children emerge strong, independent, and ready to move into a new, fulfilling phase of life., Nationally recognized expert Robert Emery applies his twenty-five years of experience as a researcher, therapist, and mediator to offer parents a new roadmap to divorce-never before laid out for general readers. Dr. Emery shows how our powerful emotions, and the way we handle them, shape how we divorce-and whether our children suffer or thrive in the long run. His message is hopeful, yet realistic-divorce is invariably painful, but parents can help promote their children's resiliency. With compassion and authority, Dr. Emery explains: * Why it is so hard to really make divorce work * How anger and fighting can keep people from really separating * Why legal matters should be one of the last tasks * Why parental love and authority can be the best "therapy" for kids One million children are affected by divorce each year. This unique book combines the compelling guidance of a renowned researcher and the sensitivity of a practicing therapist and divorced father to help parents and children emerge strong, independent, and ready to move into a new, fulfilling phase of life.
LC Classification NumberHQ759.915.E64 2004